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Dear Birthmother,
Thank you again for choosing to read my letter to you. My name is Amy and I am a 36 year old single woman hoping to start my family through adoption. While I am single I am by no means alone. I hope my letter gives you a glimpse into my life and my choice to adopt.
I live in a lovely house with a great backyard just minutes from my father, siblings and 20 nieces and nephews. Last summer I adopted a 185 pound English Mastiff dog named Katie. She is my “gentle giant” as the breed is best known for their size, protective nature and gentle demeanor with children. She and I take long walks through our neighborhood and play for hours in the backyard. Katie will make a great buddy for a child and I look forward to watching them grow up together.
Choosing adoption has been an interesting and enlightening journey thus far. During this process I have often thought of how difficult an adoption plan must be for you. I can only imagine the daily “tug of war” between your heart and your head as you try and sort out what is best for your child. The bravery, selflessness and unconditional love you have for your child is something I hope to have as I too become a mother. It takes a very strong woman to consider adoption and I hope you have the love and support of family and friends along the way. Please know that I wish you peace and serenity in whichever path you choose for you and your child.
Adoption isn’t at all a foreign concept to me as it seems to surround me. I am the 6th of 7 children in my family, our youngest brother was adopted. He came to live with our family when he was 6 years old and I was 9. At times it was a difficult road for all of us bit it gave me a real understanding of what it means to be adopted and adoption in general. Some of my first cousins are adopted. I have friends who were adopted as well as friends who are now adoptive parents. When I realized my own infertility, my life-long dream of becoming a mother had become all the more apparent. It didn’t take long until I began investigating adoption. To me adoption seemed… oddly natural.
I am counting on my very large family to help me as I will be a single parent. I only wish my mother was here to join me as I become a mother myself. Sadly she passed away 3 years ago, although I believe that she is somewhere smiling down on me and watching over me every day. My father is here and is an amazing man. He is a retired teacher and one of the many fantastic male role models my child will have in his/her life along with my 3 brothers and brother-in-law. They are fantastic men with big hearts whose interests range from art to sports and everything in between. These are the same men that along with my mother taught me that anything a boy can do, a girl can do as well (if not better) – an important lesson that will be passed on to my son or daughter. I look forward to helping these guys teach my child to throw a ball, ride a bicycle and drive a car among many other important life lessons.
Along with my family I have my very best girlfriends. Our friendships go all the way back to grade school and high school. Together we have been through thick and thin. One of my dearest friends has offered to provide daycare for my child while I am working. It’s only one of your best girlfriends who make you that kind of an offer and only one of your best girlfriends from whom you accept that offer. What a blessing!
In recent months I have been reading and learning about adopting a child of another race as it is a likely possibility. Sharing in the culture and customs of the African American, Hispanic and other communities is an experience my family and I are getting excited about. I am fortunate to live in a very diverse community made of many different races and backgrounds both social and economic. My family and I are eager to learn the traditional of another culture while creating our own family traditions with my child. Growing up in a diverse community I was exposed to many different cultures and as a result have many friends of different ethnicities. My friends have promised to help me continue to learn about my child’s culture and heritage throughout our life.
Should you choose me to adopt your child I promise you that he/she will be raised with all the unconditional love, traditions, culture, patience, family, education, opportunities, friends, slumber parties, cousins, aunts & uncles, support and discipline that every child needs and deserves. I promise to tell your child about you, your bravery and the unconditional love you had for him/her. I will be sure to tell them where they came from and the love with which their life began.
I thank you again for taking the time to read my letter and for considering an adoption plan for your child. I hope and pray for the best for you and your baby.
All the best,
Amy
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